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  1. francisguenette
    January 12, 2013 @ 8:05 pm

    It’s hard to press like on such raw emotional pain – but Cheney – you have written this soooo well – not to take away from the loss – but oh girl have you got some stuff to channel into your writing. Make it all work for you! Please.

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    • Cheney
      January 13, 2013 @ 9:26 pm

      Thank you for the compliment.. I know. I have a LOT of stuff that needs to be channeled. Sometimes writing out things that hurt and making them into strings of beautiful words helps, sometimes it hurts more. Nothing much helps with this though.

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  2. francisguenette
    January 13, 2013 @ 1:05 am

    It’s hard to press like on such raw emotional pain – but Cheney – you have written this soooo well – not to take away from the loss – but oh girl have you got some stuff to channel into your writing. Make it all work for you! Please.

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    • Cheney
      January 14, 2013 @ 2:26 am

      Thank you for the compliment.. I know. I have a LOT of stuff that needs to be channeled. Sometimes writing out things that hurt and making them into strings of beautiful words helps, sometimes it hurts more. Nothing much helps with this though.

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  3. Melanie
    January 12, 2013 @ 8:40 pm

    I haven’t been kissed in five years. I haven’t had sex for three years. I haven’t dated since I left my husband, even after the divorce was final. Today I’m miserable about being alone, though usually I’m ok with it. It’s funny what numbers on a calendar can do to us.
    Your post is beautifully written, honest and heartfelt.

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    • Cheney
      January 13, 2013 @ 9:28 pm

      Thanks Melanie. In a world that sometimes seems to revolve around sex and sex appeal, I feel like a pariah, being so sexless. But remember! We are still glad that we don’t have to adjust our thermostats or change channels for anyone else! It hurts like hell, but there are still some things that make being single better, and not having to compromise about the temperature of a house is one of them I hold dear to me.

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      • Melanie
        January 14, 2013 @ 6:19 am

        Yeah, I get that. People think I must be suffering for being single, but I’m really not. Sometimes I feel the loneliness, but then I eat popcorn for dinner and feel all better.

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        • Cheney
          January 14, 2013 @ 2:46 pm

          I eat Cheetos and feel better for five minutes but then much worse :-/

          Workin on that.

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          • Melanie
            January 14, 2013 @ 3:23 pm

            Popcorn is considered a whole grain, so the guilt is less (if I ignore the sodium). But it does me no good when I follow it up with a Hersheys bar. Yup. Working on that.

  4. Melanie
    January 13, 2013 @ 1:40 am

    I haven’t been kissed in five years. I haven’t had sex for three years. I haven’t dated since I left my husband, even after the divorce was final. Today I’m miserable about being alone, though usually I’m ok with it. It’s funny what numbers on a calendar can do to us.Your post is beautifully written, honest and heartfelt.

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    • Cheney
      January 14, 2013 @ 2:28 am

      Thanks Melanie. In a world that sometimes seems to revolve around sex and sex appeal, I feel like a pariah, being so sexless. But remember! We are still glad that we don’t have to adjust our thermostats or change channels for anyone else! It hurts like hell, but there are still some things that make being single better, and not having to compromise about the temperature of a house is one of them I hold dear to me.

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      • Melanie
        January 14, 2013 @ 11:19 am

        Yeah, I get that. People think I must be suffering for being single, but I’m really not. Sometimes I feel the loneliness, but then I eat popcorn for dinner and feel all better.

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        • Cheney
          January 14, 2013 @ 7:46 pm

          I eat Cheetos and feel better for five minutes but then much worse :-/
          Workin on that.

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          • Melanie
            January 14, 2013 @ 8:23 pm

            Popcorn is considered a whole grain, so the guilt is less (if I ignore the sodium). But it does me no good when I follow it up with a Hersheys bar. Yup. Working on that.

  5. Jenna Hatfield
    January 13, 2013 @ 3:07 pm

    I thought I’d never love someone as much.

    Turns out, I was wrong. Though it was accidental and not on purpose or sought for or even welcome at first. lol

    Don’t ever take love advice from me. I have no clue how this happened.

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    • Cheney
      January 13, 2013 @ 9:29 pm

      I still want to know how it happened, lol! I love “how we got together” stories. They make me feel hopeful!

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  6. Jenna Hatfield
    January 13, 2013 @ 8:07 pm

    I thought I’d never love someone as much.
    Turns out, I was wrong. Though it was accidental and not on purpose or sought for or even welcome at first. lol
    Don’t ever take love advice from me. I have no clue how this happened.

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    • Cheney
      January 14, 2013 @ 2:29 am

      I still want to know how it happened, lol! I love “how we got together” stories. They make me feel hopeful!

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  7. Jared Karol
    January 15, 2013 @ 11:48 pm

    Very powerful, honest post. This line resonated w/ me: “In the last month of recovery, I have felt furiously alive in a place that feels very dead.” Run w/ it, run far away from that dead place and see where you end up. You might like it! 🙂

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  8. Jared Karol
    January 16, 2013 @ 4:48 am

    Very powerful, honest post. This line resonated w/ me: “In the last month of recovery, I have felt furiously alive in a place that feels very dead.” Run w/ it, run far away from that dead place and see where you end up. You might like it! 🙂

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