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  1. Deb
    August 29, 2015 @ 10:30 pm

    I can certainly feel your frustration! It is hard to start life again and reinvent ourselves. I don’t think it’s entirely possible to change ourselves. Maybe redirect our focus. You can vent, rant or just talk on these posts. That’s why it is so fun! Ya never know what you’re going to read!!

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    • Cheney
      August 29, 2015 @ 10:31 pm

      Yes, you are right. Ourselves change the same, but what we do – what we choose to do and what we can accomplish have the ability to change us and our directions. That’s what I need to focus on. Choosing better.

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      • Deb
        August 29, 2015 @ 10:33 pm

        Same here and finding the energy to do it!

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  2. Corina
    August 30, 2015 @ 12:59 am

    I agree that you are being too hard on yourself! Especially with the writing goal you set and didn’t accomplish. Set another writing goal but make it something you will accomplish. If you said you would write 5000 words, change it to 1000. If you said you would write for an hour every day, change it to 10 minutes every day. Set manageable goals first. Once you are good at meeting them for awhile, then up them. You can do it with writing and with other things, too. Far too often, we get angry with ourselves because we set the bar for ourselves waaaayyyyy too high. Set it at a reachable height then increase it as you achieve the goals.

    I know it’s not easy. I really do. I’ve been there and I still get there from time to time. And Deb is right, use these posts to vent or to ask for help, encouragement, etc. We’re here for you!

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  3. Diana
    August 30, 2015 @ 12:25 pm

    Sorry to hear how frustrated you’ve been, and hoping that you’re feeling better soon. It can be really difficult to feel stagnant—hoping you’re able to start moving toward a happier direction soon.

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    • Cheney
      August 30, 2015 @ 1:03 pm

      Thanks, Diana. I’m loving your link up! Stagnant is a good word for how I’m feeling.

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      • Diana
        August 30, 2015 @ 9:55 pm

        Hope that you move out of that soon—it’s a really uncomfortable feeling. I always find that when I feel that way, writing something or creating something helps, because at least that’s something *new*.

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        • Cheney
          August 30, 2015 @ 10:04 pm

          I plan to.. I plan to every single day. But I HAVE to, and I haven’t yet. It’s a terrible vicious cycle.

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          • Diana
            August 30, 2015 @ 10:13 pm

            It is indeed. Things here have been in flux for such a while that I’m looking forward to a bit of routine, but the stagnant feeling is a different beast altogether.

  4. trentpmcd
    August 30, 2015 @ 2:08 pm

    Don’t be too hard on yourself. As far as writing goals go, I NEVER make them – it’s only a sure way to set yourself up for failure. Try to make yourself write just a sentence. If eve that doesn’t come, the time isn’t right. For me, it is either a desert or a gushing spring that can’t be stopped,there is little in between Oh, and figuring out who you really are, what you really want to do and finding a path between them is the hardest thing you can do, so be easy if you are getting there right away..

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    • Cheney
      August 30, 2015 @ 2:17 pm

      Thanks, Trent. Drought or flood, that’s the truth. It’s been an incredibly dry year.

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  5. silentlyheardonce
    August 30, 2015 @ 2:40 pm

    Always one day at a time and remember to smile in spite of how bad the day is. Smiling makes everything better.

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    • Cheney
      August 30, 2015 @ 2:40 pm

      Yes. Smiling, and coffee, and in worst case scenarios, a little bit of Xanax 😉

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  6. bettylouise31
    August 14, 2016 @ 11:38 am

    Like you I am annoyed with the Internet right now. I Technology is starting to get to me. My coffee post has disappeared completely. I hope I finally have links saved. I will write my coffe posts again and also the review I lost. Try not put to hard on yourself. Sorry Elise jas been sick and you missed spending time with your Grandparents.

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