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  1. Holly
    June 21, 2016 @ 3:21 pm

    Wow. Lots to process, but here’s to changed, realistic expectations with you and your amazing daughter 🙂

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    • Cheney
      June 23, 2016 @ 12:33 pm

      Yup! Thanks, Holly. It is a lot to process. Hopefully I’ll keep up the guts to try to process some of it here.

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  2. Danielle Dayney
    June 22, 2016 @ 11:21 am

    Aww, I love this. Sometimes it takes just the beauty of our own children to change US for the better.

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    • Cheney
      June 23, 2016 @ 12:34 pm

      Thank you. 🙂

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  3. theinnerzone
    June 22, 2016 @ 3:50 pm

    It takes a lot of courage to accept things as they are. Much strength and love to you and your precious daughter.

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    • Cheney
      June 23, 2016 @ 12:35 pm

      Yes. More courage to just accept than fight to change, turns out. A lesson it took too long to learn.

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  4. d3athlily
    June 23, 2016 @ 4:18 am

    It must feel rather liberating to accept and speak the truth after so long. Good on ya for sharing, though!

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    • Cheney
      June 23, 2016 @ 12:36 pm

      Yes, indeed. Thank you!

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  5. Lisa Shaw
    June 23, 2016 @ 10:36 am

    Whoa. Tears. I have a kiddo who is … I don’t know. We are in the diagnostic process. It’s a lomg road. Hugs.

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    • Cheney
      June 23, 2016 @ 12:38 pm

      Lots of tears with you, and virtual hugs. The diagnostic process is frustrating and agonizing, and turns out, kind of never ending. Stay strong!

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  6. Jennifer G. Knoblock
    June 23, 2016 @ 1:23 pm

    This made me cry–the love that shines through.
    And writing-wise, the short, matter-of-fact statements, the understated emotion, are so effective.

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    • Cheney
      June 24, 2016 @ 9:52 am

      Thanks, Jennifer. I’m trying lately to JUST WRITE. I have never been very comfortable blogging and writing about myself and Elise, and really feel the need to find my voice and just let things come out on the keyboard as they come out of my brain. I’m not as wordy and eloquent as I would like to believe based on some of my fiction, it seems 😉

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  7. innatejames
    June 23, 2016 @ 6:01 pm

    That sounds so hard, but it sounds like you need Liza to rattle you a little bit. Here’s to change and acceptance!

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    • Cheney
      June 24, 2016 @ 9:54 am

      She is rattling me so hard, and it is a good thing. Sending back to my therapy roots and going for radical acceptance along with unconditional love.

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  8. Meg
    June 23, 2016 @ 8:28 pm

    You are braver, stronger than you think. And a great mom. Accepting your daughter as she is means accepting yourself too. Think how much deeper your love will grow. Thanks for sharing this powerful revelation.

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    • Cheney
      June 24, 2016 @ 9:56 am

      It’s incredible the change I’ve felt, the shift in my thinking after just one conversation. I feel like I might have to write about this more to really, fully process. It makes me feel like such an idiot to see how hard I have been fighting against accepting and working with her differences for so long. It kills me, so I have to find a good way forward.

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  9. oldendaysk
    July 26, 2016 @ 9:48 pm

    I love the picture that goes with this revelation story. Happy faces looking relaxed. You are on your way! I’ll look forward to more writing on your journey.

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